Following global shifts and disruptions, the world has seen an unprecedented level of movement—whether returning home, relocating for work, or adjusting to a new life. As many reflect on what truly matters, more people are moving between cities or countries—whether by choice or circumstance. In the face of such change, it's easy to feel out of place, uncertain, or unsure. If you're still feeling unsettled after relocating or adjusting to a new environment, it's time to find your anchor and settle with confidence.
You don't necessarily need to feel fully "at home" in the traditional sense. Home will always be home—it holds a special place in your heart, and you don't need to try to recreate it in a new place. Finding an anchor means staying rooted and steady, helping you adjust to your new surroundings without floating aimlessly.
What is an Anchor and Why it Matters?
An anchor is something that keeps you steady when settling into a new place—whether it’s a person, routine, place, view, music, relationship or belief. Discovering or acknowledging your anchor is key to navigating the challenges of moving. You won’t feel lost or adrift; instead, you'll stay centered and adapt to your new environment with confidence.
For me, my anchor is finding my own hairdresser wherever I move. It’s not about finding the perfect one—it’s very personal; even Charlie (my current hairdresser) drives me crazy sometimes! But it’s about consistency and knowing what to expect.
The most powerful anchor I’ve found in my life is volunteering. It allows me to build my network, grow my interests, root myself in the community, and appreciate my values, giving me a strong sense of purpose wherever I go.
It’s like I always have this feeling when I’m driving for hours on an unfamiliar freeway in the middle of nowhere, feeling tired and bored, and suddenly, I spot the golden arches of a McDonald's sign. I know exactly what it is, and in that moment, I’m filled with a sense of excitement and comfort (not because of the food!). It’s a funny little moment, but in that instant, I feel a sense of civilization—something familiar, something that makes me feel secure. That’s what an anchor does—it gives you that burst of reassurance in the middle of change. So Macca is definitely my highway anchor ;)
Start with Reflection: Understanding Your Journey
Let's take a moment to reflect on your journey. Understanding your reasons can guide you toward your anchor, allowing you to adapt with purpose and clarity. Ask yourself:
Why did I move here?
What do I want to create or experience in this place?
How has my perspective changed since arriving? *Key question*
What challenges might I face, and how can I handle them?
How can I stay true to myself during this change?
Take your time with these questions—there’s no rush. Even if you don’t have clear answers right away, acknowledging uncertainty is an important step toward discovering what truly matters to you in your new environment.
How to Find Your Anchor
Remember, an anchor is what keeps you grounded, at peace, and connected—helping you embrace self-acceptance while navigating a new place. Here are a few questions to guide you:
What makes me feel calm and at peace?
When do I feel most like myself?
What daily routine or habit gives me stability?
Who or what makes me feel supported and connected?
What activity or belief helps me reset and feel grounded?
Where do I go when I need comfort or clarity?
What makes me feel valued and accepted, no matter where I am?
What does "feeling at home" mean to me, and how can I bring that sense of peace into my daily life here?
Your anchor is deeply personal. There’s no right or wrong—it’s about what works for you. It’s not about recreating "home" but adjusting with confidence wherever you are. You may have different anchors for different places—like my hairdresser, volunteering, or my highway anchor. The key is that your anchor keeps you centered and accepted, preventing you from feeling lost and preparing you for what’s next.
How People Find Their Anchor in a New Place
The beauty of anchors is that they can take many forms. Once you've reflected on your own, it can be inspiring to see how others have found theirs. Here are a few examples from people who've moved around the world:
Kin
I believe in the power of nature and keep plants everywhere at home. No matter where I move, filling my space with greenery gives me a sense of peace, connection, and continuity.
Cara
I find my anchor in:
A good coffee shop where I can get a proper cup of Italian coffee.
A supermarket that I like, where I can get my necessities.
Figuring out the best route “home”—wherever this new place is that I have landed. I want to have a few options to get home smoothly.
Getting to know my building’s security guard or doorman, or at least making sure they know who I am and which apartment I’m in.
Knowing where the nearest bank or ATM is.
Sonia
My anchor is caring for plants - I'm very drawn to plants - and I think it's a routine that's been passed on by my dad. I find sanity when I'm observing/caring for my houseplants. To me, it's a way to connect with my roots/family.
A huge thanks to Kin, Cara, and Sonia for sharing their anchors and how they've made all the difference when moving to a new place!
Embracing Change
Moving to a new place is an opportunity to grow, build, and make your mark. Whether you already have an anchor or are still discovering one, recognizing it can help you stop feeling like you're floating and start settling into your new life with confidence. Your anchor isn’t about recreating home—it’s about finding what brings you a sense of belonging and security, no matter where life takes you.
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