Recently I had a session with a coachee who is preparing himself for a new job. I asked him what he mentally needed to prepare for this transition, and we both came up with this present-past-future "detox" strategy and I loved it so much.
No matter why you choose a different path from your previous job - it could be about money, title, stress, people, value... - please do not forget the reason why you chose a particular job or role as your career in the first place. Don't let that passion slip away. Don't waste your time on "what if...". Don't gossip. No matter how stress it was, detox it! Because it is now my own time to be myself again.
1. Focus on my PRESENT
Exercise - head to the gym, do some yoga and boxing. Physically release my stress, eat healthy food, drink a lot of water, and enjoy what I like to do. I want to have a healthy and happy body for my new job and I don't want to focus on talking about my ex.
2. Make good use of my PAST
Reflection - make some time for myself, reflect my past x years of working experience, give myself some credits on how much great works I had done. Ask myself now - what should I change? How to do a better me? Don't worry about the change is too small - e.g. finish my breakfast before I go to work - because minimal is impactful!
3. Build my new FUTURE
Goal - spend some quality ME time to think about - what is my goal in the new job? What do I want to achieve? Why is that important to me? Write down a few key words on the notebook, put that in the wallet, make-up bag, or even on the mobile phone wallpaper to remind myself that I am committed to build a new "WHY" in my next chapter.
Enjoy your detox :)